unbelong !

Another new year rings in with a lot of anticipation, speculations, hopes, wishes, and positive energy around.

10 things that can make life simple this year:

1. expect the reality in its original form,
this is the best form of giving oneself a reality check. one would really care but you are the affected party, so try to be true to yourself.

2. The past has died and the fresh beginning await to see the reality.
the changes in human life are usually permanent so it is indeed necessary to start afresh.

3. never stop trying, there is always a room for improvement for the better in whatever u do and think.

4. try new things, don't hold yourself back and submit to the conventional setups... who knows there is a lot in-stored for you on the other side.

5. Retrospect yourself with time, and set some goals to achieve.

6. Take it easy, when the situation is tough.

7. Stop Overthinking about things, it spoils it totally.

8. Socialize more and make new friends, it gives you a lot more on people perspective.

9. give yourself some quality time, go solo .... lone time can be a real power booster.

10. smile and be happy, positive vibrations have their own impact on the souls.

Happy new year !!!!

Live in this moment ...

One fine day, while I was clearing my emails I realized that there was this note, a wedding invite of a long lost friend whom I had hardly heard from in last years(actually decade).

Although, I am not sure if it was personally sent or was a part of the bulk invite that was sent to all the contacts in the mailbox as a formality to keep a safe side that everyone was invited.

In such cases, not many but just very few of these invitations are accepted ... anyways.

So, while I started connecting dots as to how did we start knowing each other and then when was the last that I met her. I remembered that we were together in the primary class 3.. long time indeed.

She was my best friend then and we used to share the same bench. Were together for 3 years until the sections were shuffled and we went from being best friends to friends to acquaintances to contacts.

But this is usually what happens to us, we meet people, serve our purpose and move on. Hardly do we realize how many bonds will be broken and how many will we carry for life ahead.

If you by any chance get to see your birthday photo albums from past years, you will realize that the guest list on your birthday will keep on changing. There will be shuffling and modifications every year.

Some no more friends, some new friends, some lost and found friends.

Social Media has now a days has made it easier to keep in touch with a lot of estranged bonds, so now you know what are they up to, where do they live, where do they work, relationship status etc.

You cant go and haunt people every now and then just because you were friends at some point in time, there some this social media to your rescue.

We all have differences with someone or the other and then it moves to 'no talking terms' status.

But then it is no point keeping a grudge against someone, for a simple reason that you might never really meet that person to settle your scores.

This is how life has turned into now, this is why I believe people say live in the moment because there is no way you recreate the harmony and symphony of each passing rhythm of time.

My Way !

One evening during a social outing, I observed a few in the gathering who were so desperate to be the part of the existing gang.
Usually Going by the majority decision, people are driven against their own individuality. 

The main driving force for this is that people generally dont tend to stand alone by themselves. Being a pushover is very comfortable but ....... not happening !!!

I dont share things will all, like many of them do instead I like to mind my business myself but that does not make me anyway rude or affable because that is the way I am conceptualized. I feel things are more manageable when they are not spread wide.

I dont like to frown and cry about what has happened, others wont be able to carve a solution for me instead I would be for myself. 
However, that does not mean I am unaffected by the circumstances instead staying by my side it the best I can to help myself. 

I know my path and mind my steps, unlike some who find it amusing to be all casts and all ways, instead I like to keep things in place for that shall work fine for me.

No matter how strong I pretend to be, I do have my weaknesses and insecurities, my downfalls and my tantrums, my randomness and my sophestication, my choices and my ways.

I get frightened with the sound of thunderstorms on lonely nights.....
I get hurt when someone gets angry with me and shouts… 
I sometimes feel lonely and want someone to hold my hands and make me feel wanted and loved… 
I want someone to hug me and protect me so no one can hurt me… 
I want someone kiss my forehead and assure me that everything will be all right… because sometimes I wish to be a little girl inside..

Being high on substance and moral is better than being high on profile ... Always !!!

What if it works !

The starting are always beautiful, because they have an element of surprise in stored. But by the time you reach the middle of it, you may (or probably may not!) loose interest in the undertaken.
The theory stands true for all segments in life, including relationships also.

While we start liking a person, we are madly, deeply and passionately in love (even if it is not that !) with all that is attached to that individual. 
But in due course of time when the you catch hold of the someone you thought would be 'Hard to Get' person and mystery unfolds, that cupid struck love flies and reality dawns.
Suddenly, everything looks usual, boring and waste of productive time (as if, would have otherwise launched a space mission by now!).

The reason is not lack of time, interest or hope but it is our own ideology in life making things turn bitter.

First being our own apprehensions in life about "what if!" scenario & 'Let's-end-this-before-it-gets-started' technique
Always in a defencive mode, which makes us be afraid to get into a relationship, afraid to get out of it, afraid to dump, afraid to get dumped. Lots of fear resides inside.

Next, We tend to me a lot more materialistic than required. Today, we would rather have an iPhone than a partner
it is all about my phone, my laptop, my clothes, my watch.

We tend to keep grudges and never let it go. Once broken in love, we are too bitter to let it go.
It is completely fine if didn't work out in the first place. Stop being bitter. Give love another chance. You can not change the what is destined but can always make things work till you drop.

We want it to be the best than the rest. The reason is loud and simple - can't deal with flaws and look for perfection.
Our generation is so obsessed with perfection that we can't deal with the smallest of flaws. "He is nice but he is dark", "She is smart but she is short".
We need to realise that we've grown up and the world is much more than just these.

We aspire for things until we have achieved what we want. Once the 'chase' ends, everything ends.
Met someone new --> exchange numbers --> Conversations --> Ask out --> dates --> Dinners --> loose interest --> start avoiding --> its over (no talking terms mostly :P !).
Then after a while, Met someone new --> exchange numbers --> Conversations --> Ask out --> dates --> Dinners --> loose interest --> start avoiding --> its over. And the loop goes on.
We know the drill all too well, don't we?

We are out there - on social media websites, on dating apps, at parties, but all this while, are we really available? We are available, but never really available.
We hide our inhibitions and are scared out of our wits to be alone. We try to be the part of the gang just to prove to ourselves that we are not loners. We exist... Don't we ?

We meet people at a rapid pace and drop them even faster.,
We keep looking for options - for something better. We do not want to settle for less

We dread of being labelled, most of us think why get into the trouble of labelling relationships. 
We are afraid of defining them because then people would know. And we'd not be able  to end this 'thing' as easily as we would have done otherwise. For God sake, no one has time to spend it on you completely, they have there own nut and screws to fix .. Isn't it?

Our mentality about the concept of love is screwed. (Let's face it !)
Most of us haven't been in love and don't even understand what it is. For us, it's a game that we think we know too well. But that is not the case, you have to live the feeling to get the stats right :)

We have bound ourselves so tight against the shackles of social bindings that search of the right time does not let us find some ever!

So give some space to tinder, go out, meet people rather than adding them on Facebook, have a real conversation instead of sharing emotes, and don't be afraid to give love a chance! It will be worth it.

Awwww ...

One fine morning, I was still to open my eyes, but already on Facebook... thanks to the smart phone that makes me smarter by the day! <-- Pun intended :) >

Suddenly came across a trending notification on the networking site that instantly grabbed my attention.

It was one of my friend wishing her husband on his birthday.

So it was a picture of both of them together and she had tagged him to let the world know that she loved him real much. And the rest was done by the selflessly kind and true friends adding to the likes and comments in the follow.

I mean what???? Don’t they live together to wish each other (--‘in their face’)?????

What is it that these couple are trying to do by putting their love and affection for all to see, risking that they might be getting a nasty backlash from others?

But anyhow, it has lately been a trending custom on the social networking site (SNS), wherein people wish their family on internet. The reason is not sentimental but social display of the bond that is shared. (-- oh yeah!)

There were times when, Personal Expressions were limited to written letters, calls or in person conversations.

But the era has changed now, you want to get some personal details about a person? 

SNS are the best source of information (-- sometimes reliable too). 

Go peek into his id, you’ll get all the information right from his birthday to the places recently visited, from his friends to his immediate family, from the relationship status to evolutionary profile pictures. And then you are ready to attack. (not literally though!)

Almost 3 years back, getting 30 likes on a profile photo was an achievement, but today it has no limits. Interestingly, a friend recently struck 960 likes in 3 hours on a display picture of hers. Gosh!!

Below are some tricks to improve your visibility on SNS (tested and proven: P)

1.      Change a display picture, and then randomly tag people so that you appear is as many walls as possible to get a compliment (-- boys cannot be sure of that also ^_^).

2.      Send friend request to all those you know (-- even if it is just their name)

3.      Poke random crowd so that they visit your profile. (--who knows, you might get lucky!)

4.      Shine in your peer group by managing maximum number of likes on the posts and pictures shared. Being a highest grossers makes you star. (--always works!)

5.      Message people complimenting them. Even if they don’t reply, you have at least tried.  (--just try to make a little sense. If possible!)

6.      Share the entire album of your latest vacation, to make people realize how outgoing and happening you are. (--entire means all, no editing, no selection, including crap :S)

7.      Update your status timely, so that the world knows what exactly you feel (--that is all that they are living on earth for! Really!)

8.      Comment on all the pictures you see. No relevance required!

Disclaimer - The above will definitely prove worth some popularity, but don’t rely on experiences alone. Go for some inventions too.

Recommendation - Try getting a life, if possible….

Resonance

Time runs and disappears but sometimes it leaves back a bagful of memories, lessons and beautiful resonance of emotions that lasts nothing less but a lifetime.

Life is what happens while we are busy being busy. 
Now when I lay down introspecting the past it starts echoing the soul and make me long to relive all those times again.The times that I thought were just usual but slowly and gradually turned into some picture perfect moments.

There were times when a tiny me was so excited about school, have freinds and play, knowing nothing of what comes next.
First day at the pre-school was a big disaster, from the time I stepped inside the school premises I was so sure this is something not for me. Not very patient initially, I used to cry with all my might and infact sometimed made my mom sit next to me for the class while I very observingly saw my teacher play with the chalk & duster and some fellow cartoons too. 
That group photograph from the pre-school makes me laugh even today.

Days went by, seasons changed and years slipped the pace fast pre-school done, school over.

College was altogether a new beginning, varied culture and the real part was the hostel life. To some it may be another term for freedom and indepdndence but for me it was a life of exile and of never returning back, this I realized when I landed 450 KM away from home, with a suitcase, seeing mom-dad wave me 'goodbye'.
That moment made me feel so lost, seeing my parents ditch me in the jungle was a thought that makes me weak even today.

It was extremely difficult initially, but conditions, places and experiences teach you to live in all seasons.
Living out there, all to myself gave me the sense of independence, taught me the survival strategy, inculcated some amout of self belief and made me stronger by the day.
And moreover I have learnt to dwell, and managed it quit skillfully.

Then came the Chennai chapter, when I landed 2200 km away from home, I felt like dying in first place, thanks to the mobile phone inventions that made me sustain somehow.
Never ever had dreamed of travelling to that part of the country made me crib even more.
Living there was in no connection to the previous times, everything felt strange and obsolete.
The three months of corporate training there made me come to terms with the fact that life has tough choices to make now that would be permanent in nature.

Now, for almost 5 years now life in Pune has taught me to sustain in all conditions no matter how good or bad. Seeing people of all colours and conditions gives some initial resistence, but then you learn to cope and in due course of time things seem normal and substantially worth living.
In here, I came to know the difference between desire and demands, wants and needs, hopes and despair, friends and aquintances, living and breathing.
Everyday adds a new page in the book of life. However the flavour of each may vary from being pleasent to patrifying, from comedy to tragedy, from desire to desperation, from Fondness to fights.
But these all in totality adds to a personality.

The priorities might change and situations may vary but the memories remain intact. Those memories of all these times are the most beautiful hangover I underwent, the thought of it is enough to add a spark of charm while I remember eachone eachtime.


Nobody can ever deprive me of these invaluable treasure of mine.

Happy Days !

How captivating do these stars up above in the sky look, try to gaze them and they smile back giving a ‘Thumbs Up’ look and saying, 'Great Job, keep calm, have faith, things will be ok!'

Life seems so settled and lovely while you lie down introspecting and travel some years down your youth to your childhood. You suddenly feel the nostalgia hitting as you crave to be back living those happy times again.

The time when homework was the only trauma in life, and a new toy was the biggest joy, choosing the flavor of ice cream was the toughest decision.

The school assemblies were life-taking; the zero-period was like a dream come true, free periods were blessings.

A random leave from school made me bloom, how I wished it could rain till 7A.M. so that Mom says 'No School Today, better stay home!'

Rubbing the chalk on the white PT shoes to make them spark on Saturdays, pulling up the socks each time the class teacher passes by.

Could sleep anywhere in the house but would be somehow magically transported to the bed in the night.

Sunday was a family time, video games, good food, and the 4PM movie on DD1.

Cartoons series were tough to resist, TV’s remote control capture was a big achievement.

Only responsibilities were to arrange the books on the shelves follow the time tables and ensure you close the taps properly each time.

Shopping was a family event and orange and yellow were also wearable colors.

Holidays were anticipated, summer vacations existed, the best things about December other than Christmas carols and hollies was winter break and New Year resolutions about the new and improved time table <sleep by 9 pm :) >.

The fights would last just for few hours or probably just a sleep, and then things would be same again.

The cherished times while cycling sessions with friends, the joy of eating out once in a while, a movie show, and a trip to granny's place, the birthday celebrations, the school picnics and excursions. The panic induced exams and boards gave jitters but the respectable grades made us sail through.

Alas! Those were the days!

Friends were close, choices were more, and money was not a priority, it was just enough to feel happy.

Back then there were tears that did not go unnoticed, prayers those were heard, there was no difference between wishes and demands but all were fulfilled, and the dreams that were sky-high.

The plans to grow seemed so cool and happening, but now when reality strikes I realize "it is a trap".

Time Please !

Winning may be a habit, sometimes a want, a passion, a dream, but reality can always

vary.

There necessarily has to be one winning position, so what about the rest?

Yes, they loose, loose to the winner!

Life is not just about winning, it is more about learning, planning, executing and then introspecting.

It is completely fine to goof-up at times, loose a match, bunk a class, fail an exam, miss a train, skip a schedule, spoil an interview, an unwise decision at times, have a breakup, start a fight, no preplanned, pamper yourself, poking a friend, secret outing, a healthy lie, a little secret.

This makes you believe in the human aspect of life, making mistakes is considerable; nobody has ever won without stumbling through small failures before getting to the goal [or reaching at least close].

Life is all about how you perceive things, not about your temperament and aptitude or prevalent situation.

Being a good heart is more important and tough than being a winner.

Winning gives you confidence, pride, contentment, satisfaction, accolades whereas failure tells you that you need to push it little harder and better, be more focused, more patient, more passionate, and more hopeful.

But till the time you are ready to grow, compensate and idolise your failure, it is nothing grave and wrong.

Nobody really cares about your grades and degrees, your presentation and trophies.

People will only remember you for the good you do to them, for the soul you share with them, your smile and a happy heart in you.

The more you think about profit and loss, the deeper you sink in the density of materialism without being able to ever enjoy what is at hand. It is never about morals and ethics, but about your perception towards situation and being able to take on the reality.

Contentment is the greatest virtue, if we do not feel elevated or satisfied about what we already have; nobody can help us achieve this.

There is no end to desire, but there is a big difference between need, wants and desire.

Life cannot be lived while you keep comparing with what anyone else has, no two people can be the same nor can their situation, circumstances and lives be. So it leads you nowhere.

So, give time some time, and things automatically fall into place to make you feel alive again!!!

Like a SUNSHINE....

When we first met, I was a little apprehensive about this relationship to happen and did not anticipate things to turn prettier and brighter so soon.

But now when I look back and see how all this started, it stuns me completely, and not to mention that this time the cupid has struck the right chord.

I always dreamt of a man, a soul mate, not to complete my existence but rather share my completeness. You are the one who lets me be me, who not just desires a relationship but also knows how to sail through the tough. You are always less hassled so to let me freak out. Just what I needed !!

You don't need to be perfect, neither a rock star, nor a man who keeps a high profile, but just a man who has some brains over his shoulders and an unconditionally loving heart (of course healthy bank balance is a concern too ^_^) .

I long to spend time with you because it is some quality time spent, for it is not a matter of milestone, but moments. with you all I have to be is myself, no baggage of how to react, no worries, no responsibility, nothing to crave for, nothing obsolete.

In the coffee shop, you quietly sit sipping your coffee and I start talking and talking and then some more and all you do is be patient and have that 'Yes, go ahead' smile.. in an passive agreement made to all my fizzy thoughts.

While we go shopping and I make you try 1000 shirts to pick 1, but you are least irritated.
During drives, there are a thousand questions unanswered in my head and I start volleying them at you in anticipation of a wise answer each time.

After an absolutely tiring day at office, the magic of two hearts talking to harmony till 4 Am in the morning makes it even worthwhile.

To me, our every single, small, stupid, silly conversation means more than you can ever imagine.Each time I look at you, I fall in love all over again.

The intensity in your eyes and your care takes me by stance and makes me ponder if this is real and for sure!
It is like until we meet I was living pretty well, but it is with you when I realised that I can be happy also.

At dinners, you start praising me and go on till its late and time to drop me back.

Like a sunshine I feel you already glittering my soul.  

You might be you most logical man to the entire world, but the way you pamper me in the most insane manner, that palpable sense of belonging make me feel out of this world.

Stay there, stay mine, stay always is all that I wish for!!! 

Dad calling!

Every time the phone shows 'Dad Calling', it is not just the daily status call, it is more than that and in fact life taking now a days.

In line with all my expectations it is the same story again. The dialogues (rather monologues) are same, the discussions repeats, the rebel is expected, all this because the topic is the same, its 'Marriage'.
I am given a list of profiles to peep through and choose if I am able to find my true Love (from the available options).(pun intended)

The call disconnects with a genuine warning that they'll call me back soon to check if I am still alive after this self-professed suicide.

It all started when one fine day, I was told about registration on a matrimonial site, which is known to search suitable matches for all the desperate grooms and their families hunting (literal terms) for a normal girl (for their incarnated son)who necessarily maps to:
being beautiful beyond expectation, presentable beyond exception, homely beyond requirement, educated beyond degrees, caring beyond limits, respectful beyond stature and a wealthy linage as well. Anything that adds to the list after these would be cherished.

Gazing through the profiles on laptop, fingers ticking the forward arrow with no expectation, eyes least interested, mind full of thousand unanswered questions to ponder apart from this, every profile has the same question 'Why him?'.
I did find some of them funny but nothing convincing, all this while I felt saying 'Kill me Please !'.

Parents are right in their own perspective, but I want some more time to be given to my aspirations.
Marriage is necessary but is the person not important? There is no more lovely, friendly, and charming relationship, communion, or company than a good marriage.
I don't need somebody to complete me, rather I want him to share my completeness.
Parents rebuke us to speak to 'Strangers' but they force you for an 'Arranged marriage'.

If I bluntly disagree I may be hurting their nested faith in me, I am doing wrong to them, but if I blindly agree it would be compromising with the biggest and the most important decision in my life.

Despite the entire storm of thoughts is making a swirl in my brain the question still remains, it is too late for me to be single or too early to get married ?

Just when I was in the middle of this entire mental chaos, phone rings and the screen shows 'Dad

Calling'.