Lockdown - Apr 2020

This has taught me to be grateful, to not things for granted.

memories dated just 3 months back are also coming as nostalgia.

the world has come to a standstill.

it was just normal in march, we did do a trip to Goa and came back, went home for holi - came back and woof it all started to come under lockdown.

meeting people socializing, travels, drives, hanging out has paused.

although internet is still on, and virtually we are still connected but in these hard times it feels such a disconnect at times

but in a positive blink, it has given the much needed break to all of us.

spend time with family, play with your kids. entertain yourself

Play games, cook, draw, write, scribble, rest, sing, dance, take care of you 

coming to what I miss most during this period of isolation, NOTHING

I am doing what I just love to do, stay home, do my thing.

I have just discovered the love to cook, the happiness it gives me to plan every meal specially the weekends.

I love to capture some lovely food on the plate and put it to my social media, obviously I am getting a lot of appreciation and love for these.

But the point remains that this situation is here to stay and will be the new normal in times to come.

I think this is some part of God's plan to put things back in their orbit.

Government cannot put the entire company under the lock-down for long, this will be a bigger economic issue and problem for the daily bread earners.

Cant be done much, but it will be more productive if we choose to adapt this.

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Virtual Reality.

You can binge watch on your mobile, but dont have people to talk to.
When was the last time you spoke to your friend and told them that you are screwed

SOCIAL MEDIA, the place where everyone becomes an expert in filters and hashtags, and where oversharing is the new normal. It's like a never-ending reality show where people document every meal, outfit, and awkward encounter.

We all have that friend who can't resist posting a selfie every five minutes, no matter how mundane the situation. "Just brushed my teeth, #FreshBreathGoals." Like seriously, do we need a play-by-play of your dental hygiene routine?

And let's not forget about those overused hashtags that make us roll our eyes. #Blessed, #Goals, and #LivingMyBestLife seem to accompany every picture, whether it's a fancy vacation or just a cup of coffee at the local café. Can we get some originality, please?

Oh, and don't even get me started on the humblebrags. "Ugh, my beach vacation got extended. I guess I'll just have to suffer through more sunsets and margaritas." We get it, your life is amazing, but maybe tone down the bragging a notch.

Then there are those never-ending political debates that take place in the comments section. It's like a battlefield of opinions, with keyboard warriors ready to engage in a virtual war over the most trivial topics. Who knew that a post about cute puppies could turn into a heated discussion about tax policies?

But amidst all the overused clichés and virtual dramas, social media does have its funny side. It's a platform for hilarious memes, witty comebacks, and epic fails. After all, where else can you find a compilation of cats dancing to popular songs or people attempting ridiculous challenges for their 15 minutes of fame?

In summary, social media is a never-ending circus of overused hashtags, humblebrags, and virtual debates. But if you can sift through the noise, you might just find some genuinely funny

People judge the happiness via the instagram filters, wherein it is absolutely rubbish.

Electronic devices have undoubtedly become an integral part of our lives, offering convenience, connectivity, and entertainment. However, their excessive and unhealthy use can lead to a variety of toxic impacts on individuals and society as a whole.

One of the primary concerns is the addictive nature of electronic devices. Whether it's constantly checking social media, playing video games for hours on end, or mindlessly scrolling through endless feeds, these devices can easily consume our attention and time. This addiction can lead to a lack of productivity, neglect of responsibilities, and a decline in physical and mental health.

The constant exposure to screens also has detrimental effects on our physical well-being. Prolonged device usage can contribute to sedentary behavior, leading to a lack of exercise and increased risk of obesity and related health issues. Additionally, excessive screen time can cause eye strain, headaches, and disrupted sleep patterns, affecting both our physical and mental health.

Furthermore, electronic devices can have a negative impact on our social interactions. People often become so engrossed in their devices that they neglect face-to-face communication, leading to a decline in genuine human connections. The virtual world can create a sense of isolation, as individuals may prioritize online interactions over meaningful real-life relationships.

Another significant concern is the impact of electronic devices on mental health. The constant exposure to carefully curated online personas and unrealistic standards can lead to feelings of inadequacy, low self-esteem, and anxiety. Cyberbullying and online harassment are also prevalent, causing emotional distress and even depression.

From an environmental standpoint, the production, consumption, and disposal of electronic devices contribute to significant ecological problems. The extraction of raw materials, energy consumption during manufacturing, and improper disposal of e-waste all contribute to pollution and resource depletion, posing long-term threats to our planet.

While electronic devices have undeniable benefits, it is crucial to recognize and address the toxic impacts they can have. Setting boundaries, practicing digital detoxes, and cultivating a healthy balance between device usage and real-life experiences can help mitigate these negative effects. Additionally, promoting digital literacy and responsible device use can create a healthier relationship with technology for individuals and society as a whole.

There is no creativity around, it is so passe`.

The Great Indian Shaadi Circus!

Ah ...... 

Indian marriages, where the guest list is longer than the bride's veil and the food is spicier than the groom's dance moves. It's a celebration that lasts for days, with more outfit changes than a fashion show and enough sweets to give Willy Wonka a run for his money.

The journey begins with the matchmaker, who sets up the meeting between the potential bride and groom. They sit awkwardly across from each other, sipping tea and trying to make small talk while their families hover nearby, eagerly watching for any signs of chemistry.

If the couple is lucky enough to hit it off, the wedding planning begins. There are endless decisions to be made, from the venue to the catering to the entertainment. And don't forget about the wedding outfits - the bride's lehenga must be more stunning than the Taj Mahal, while the groom's sherwani must be more dazzling than the Kohinoor diamond.

As the big day approaches, the excitement builds. The sangeet ceremony is a chance for everyone to show off their dance moves, while the mehendi ceremony is a chance for the bride to showcase her intricate henna designs. And then comes the main event - the wedding ceremony itself, with all its pomp and splendor.

But perhaps the most memorable part of an Indian wedding is the food. From butter chicken to biryani to gulab jamun, the spread is enough to make any foodie weak in the knees. And let's not forget about the jalebis - those sweet, syrupy treats that are impossible to resist.

As the celebrations wind down, the newlyweds begin their life together, surrounded by love and family. And while the wedding may be over, the memories (and Instagram photos) will last a lifetime.

In summary, Indian marriages are a colorful, vibrant celebration of love and family, filled with delicious food, elaborate outfits, and unforgettable moments. It's a celebration that truly embodies the phrase "big fat Indian wedding."

                                

90s nostalgia | Many memories | No evidences

If ever, we - human race, stumble upon the idea of getting a time machine and go for some time travel or age leap, I would choose 90's for some odd reasons of mine.

We grew up in the no internet times.

That was an era, where power cuts were so organic

Seasons could be divided,

movie-halls were for the movies and had 4 shows,

Song lyrics made sense, MTV actually played music.☺

spending money on cassettes and DVDs/CDs was not foolish.

'Humara Bajaj' was pride. Maruti 800 was luxury.

Road had space and traffic was less.

Their was no hamleys and fisher-price, it was simple and non-complicated.

My sticker collection was to die for, and I did have some 4000+ picture of Rahul dravid pasted in a scrap book.

DD1 was need and DD2 was desire.

Alif Laila, and shaktiman were magical.

There were no credit cards, but we were still not broke.

The joy of hanging on the sofa for the landline phones, was no pain.

There were vacations, and no Instagram. Shimla, manali were destinations

siblings & cousins existed and met more often then just family weddings.

socializing was not facebook and linkedin.

Kids today will not realize how it was to click some selected pictures and actually wait for them to be developed.

No Google, Libraries and books were ethereal.

Nevertheless, I believe this is how every generation feels when they look beyond themselves, so no hard feeling guys.

Best half of the world

The world celebrates 'The International Women's Day' on March 8th every year, but it is every day that you should celebrate your existence.

I love the complicated existence of a woman! Don’t you?

Girls are born to be caring and curious, obsessed and observing, loving and lovable, responsible and rocking, savage and sassy, bright and beautiful.
There is something so beautiful, strong and special about being a woman.

In everyday work life we are always vying to exceed our appraisal goals and running behind the daily chores. And on top of it, there is this omnipresent pressure of gender bias to deal with at work. Over a period of time, and with different experiences I have had, I have come to the conclusion that most of this pressure is uncalled for and self-created. 

Each person has a unique role to play, then why beat you up by trying to be equal to someone else. I believe we should relish our multi-dimensional presence filled with emotions, intellect, insights and intuitions, and remember that we are capable of marvelous things. 

Figure out your strengths, jump over the hurdles and keep running.
Sometimes, you will wonder if you are doing enough or getting rewarded enough.
These thoughts will exhaust your brain and physical self. But the true, unstoppable woman in you will have the resilience to handle each day with strength and be successful in whatever you do.

Among all the chaos, try listening to that little voice right in there - soul voice, it is a mix of doubt and determination, vulnerability and strength.

There will be days when you would look clueless, days of self-doubt.
But you must learn to get yourself together and tell yourself that there is no glass ceiling high enough for you to shatter.

Learn to appreciate yourself, check what a rush it gives when you try to do create, explore, and observe new things.

Don’t ask for equality, act equal, and come out of that shell. Participate and win, rather win big.
You should, you must become the person you want the other person to be.

It is better done then said, have you tried multitasking, taking an escalation - work call while painting your nails and checking your mails? its amazingly satisfying.

With the insane amount of hours that we work at office, it’s important to have a balance. It’s okay to take a break, its okay to think about you, and yes, it’s definitely not something to feel guilty about.
So, while it’s essential to stay relevant and slog to deliver impeccable work and up skill and excel in newer things of AWS, RPA and cloud, it is equally important to take time off to do what you like-

•Go on a holiday, go for fitness training, read a book or just sleep, digital detox.
•Watch Gossip Girl or Games of Thrones or work on improving your scores in PUBG
•Go for some retail therapy
•Better still; try to save the world by giving up plastics! Ever tried a plastic detox?
•Or just listen to what your heart says

Cherish every moment and while you douse all the fire around, trust me you have no idea what destruction you are capable of.

You can make him love you and choose to leave him too.
You are intense enough to make a 'Kabir Singh', that is epic savage!

Girls you are born to rule, go for the kill.
Make people wonder how you still flaunt your version of the Mona Lisa smile.

“The success of every woman should be the inspiration to another. We should raise each other up. Make sure you are very courageous; be strong, be extremely kind, and above all be humble. “~Serena Williams

Reassurance

Another usual long day at work and you come back home exhausted. 

No energy to cook, so it is yesterday's leftovers for meal tonight.

Turn on laptop and scroll through your news feeds to check what is happening all around the globe.

Look at happy, shiny couples. Wonder when you will be part of one. Friends and colleagues on fancy holidays in exotic locations, makes you think how do people roam around and you have so much to bang your head into.

A couple of wedding photographs and happily-ever-after later, you don't feel like going any further. It's the same, irritating story every day. 

You shut down Facebook. Check your phone, hoping for some messages. No new notifications. No hellos, no good nights.

Even that person who kept pestering you with messages, doesn't seem to be doing it anymore. Feeling weird and lonely, you put yourself to sleep. Because no one else will, right?

Why does one message matter that much anyway? When did a virtual message become that important? Isn't it stupid to look forward to them? No. The truth is that a message has become much more than just a form of communication. It is a reminder that someone, somewhere is thinking about you. A reassurance. 

A reminder that no matter how exhausting the day was, it's going to be a good night. And it's okay to want that.

So this is for the one who cry themselves to sleep thinking that no one cares, for the night crawlers who yearn to talk to someone special who tells them how much they mean to them, and for the hopeless romantics. It's okay to be needy. It is perfectly normal to expect.

You should know that even though it has been a rough day (or days and more), tomorrow will be a new day. The dawn will bring with it the sound of chirping  birds and endless laughter, the fragrance of the early morning air and that special someone, the amazing feeling of the dew drop and a hand on yours. Know that it is just the day which is over, not your life.

You might have to wait a little longer for that person who sends you the last message you read before going to sleep, but you will not have to wait for the message today.

Good night, you beautiful,

You have been strong and I am proud of you.

daddy

Going though some old pictures I came across a picture with daddy.
All decked up in a white bandhgala at a family celebration, holding me close while I slept (I must have been 1 then) he looked sharp.

Not all super heroes wear capes, daddies are the real super humans.
If ever I get a life again I wish we get back these roles, because there is something I cant define about you and cannot get enough of you !

I am tough because you are strong. 
Nothing affects me more then your reaction to anything.
I absolutely love the way you get restless when I am not well, the way you call me 'laddoo', the way we poke mom, the way you call me 4 times every day, the way you are into your children and so much more.
Although I do not like when you force me to eat apples.

You are my constant in the ever changing life, for now and forever and more.
If ever it happens that nobody loves me in this world, I know for the fact that you will still love me with all your heart.

I have been giving some real time lately, but you know how things are :P, but its alright.
We will sort it soon.
I must tell you that I trust you and no-one listens to me the way you do.

The way you have the best handwriting, the way you have pushed me to think beyond just ordinary.

But daddy I think you should smile a little more, although I like the tough look too. 
But still we can try ... whatsay :*

we are the better team at home, mom sometimes tries to out do, but we know how it is. 
I love you and more and more and much much more :) 

To all the daddies out there, yours is the most thankless job but you are doing it really well.
To all the children out there, please take sometime off from your social/economic responsibilities to make parents feel your presence.

Make it count

The more things change, the more they remain the same.

You might love him with all your heart, but expression can make a lot of difference.

You need to ensure that this expression reaches the right person and correct place when there is still time.

Tell him

That he is magical, even if it is just his presence,

That he smells amazing, even if it is just his aftershave,

That he is fun, even if it is just his silence,

That he is game, even if it is just his eyes,

That he cooks well, even if it is just noodles

That he is fantastic, even if it is just his chaos,

That he is caring, even if it is just his stupid conversation,

That you love his mess, even if it is just his hair,

That he is crazy, even if it is for his plans,

That he is high, even if it is his football craze,

That he is madness, even if it is his mood,

That he has a vibe, even if it is for his colors (in all forms),

That he is heart, even when you have your own,

That he is love, because you never felt so convinced.

So, tell him now because tomorrow may just be a dream.

"at the end all that matters is love".

I would have if I could have

Never did I realize that this might be something I might have to rethink about ...

Today I would have had you but I dont and the reason is because I did not consent when the time was just right .

I might have to settle for someone who might just love me more that you but I might not be able to reciprocate, because I cannot get over and trust me it is really tough.

I don't have an option now ... I don't have you and you won't be convinced.

No one knows about this and the absolute pain remains inside me.

How I wish I could travel back in time to make just a few corrections and get all this mess in a good shape.

We all Sit and talk about destiny, but when it really dawns it is painful and heartbreaking sometimes

I have been very mean and have been finding someone who can help me move on and get over you... But no luck.

How I wish things would be a lot different, trust me 'I would have if I could have' the power to rephrase and set the situations right.

We might be at distance and there is a lot of communication gap but I am still not able to decide if we are over or there is still some hope for me in there.

the moral of the story remains, say it when it matters the most and nothings change there-after.

Hollow within

The decisions which are made to please others can never give you the happiness that you deserve and sometimes it is just not meant to be.

They might decide for you but you will bear the life-long consequences.

I am aarzoo, and he is Ronak. 

We are married for almost 2 years now and I am not still not able to decide weather it was destiny or was it forced. 

I used to like a guy, we were good together and we spoke to our parents to take this ahead but as anticipated they did not agree. Parents are programmed to be reactive in such a situation. 

Anyways, it did not work. I also gave into the family pressure.

So it was then they found Ronak for me, whom according to them was the best match.
He was rich and more rich, he liked the girl and girl's consent was not needed. [They were not ready for a 'NO'].

I chose him because my parents felt that it was right and he was good enough. Since then we are together not by choice obviously.

He never considered me as a partner but just an anointed wife, we are like flatmates, share his surname and don't share bills because I don't earn.
Time and again he reminds me that he had so many proposals to consider for alliance but he considered me because the family insisted.

He has a routine and I have a husband. He follows his heart and I follow his instructions. 
I have nothing to talk to him, even if I do it results in a monologue because nothing makes him happy. He is a difficult man to please and I am tired of giving it a try.

He comes home and he finds time for Indian economy & newspapers but me. He has time for his swimming, gaming,gym and tennis regime but his wife. 

I am not allowed to find a job and work because I never used to, moreover he does not want me to work for some 20 thousand rupees. [He earns much more then needed, still I am not a happy wife :)]

I don't remember if we have a single happy picture together, not even from our honeymoon. It is because they is a unsaid vacuum. No-one understands but there is no connection.

I am not allowed to go out with friends because he does not approve of it and think I am better off at home. 

I tried telling my mom that we don't talk and to this her answer was that "time heals everything".

We have his friends coming over every weekend so that we don't have to spend the entire day together yet alone. 

For once I tried talking to him about how lonely I feel and he suggested that lets have a baby so that you are occupied and have a company too.

I feel like a machine, everything is just perfect in my house food, laundry, furniture, bills. The only thing missing is life.

I have recently moved to United states with him because he wanted to and I was supposed to.

but I am still looking for happiness which I believe I deserve.

I am the only one suffering, because everyone else feels that he is good enough.