The starting are always beautiful, because they have an element of surprise in stored. But by the time you reach the middle of it, you may (or probably may not!) loose interest in the undertaken.
The theory stands true for all segments in life, including relationships also.
While we start liking a person, we are madly, deeply and passionately in love (even if it is not that !) with all that is attached to that individual.
But in due course of time when the you catch hold of the someone you thought would be 'Hard to Get' person and mystery unfolds, that cupid struck love flies and reality dawns.
Suddenly, everything looks usual, boring and waste of productive time (as if, would have otherwise launched a space mission by now!).
The reason is not lack of time, interest or hope but it is our own ideology in life making things turn bitter.
First being our own apprehensions in life about "what if!" scenario & 'Let's-end-this-before-it-gets-started' technique
Always in a defencive mode, which makes us be afraid to get into a relationship, afraid to get out of it, afraid to dump, afraid to get dumped. Lots of fear resides inside.
Next, We tend to me a lot more materialistic than required. Today, we would rather have an iPhone than a partner
it is all about my phone, my laptop, my clothes, my watch.
We tend to keep grudges and never let it go. Once broken in love, we are too bitter to let it go.
It is completely fine if didn't work out in the first place. Stop being bitter. Give love another chance. You can not change the what is destined but can always make things work till you drop.
We want it to be the best than the rest. The reason is loud and simple - can't deal with flaws and look for perfection.
Our generation is so obsessed with perfection that we can't deal with the smallest of flaws. "He is nice but he is dark", "She is smart but she is short".
We need to realise that we've grown up and the world is much more than just these.
We aspire for things until we have achieved what we want. Once the 'chase' ends, everything ends.
Met someone new --> exchange numbers --> Conversations --> Ask out --> dates --> Dinners --> loose interest --> start avoiding --> its over (no talking terms mostly :P !).
Then after a while, Met someone new --> exchange numbers --> Conversations --> Ask out --> dates --> Dinners --> loose interest --> start avoiding --> its over. And the loop goes on.
We know the drill all too well, don't we?
We are out there - on social media websites, on dating apps, at parties, but all this while, are we really available? We are available, but never really available.
We hide our inhibitions and are scared out of our wits to be alone. We try to be the part of the gang just to prove to ourselves that we are not loners. We exist... Don't we ?
We meet people at a rapid pace and drop them even faster.,
We keep looking for options - for something better. We do not want to settle for less
We dread of being labelled, most of us think why get into the trouble of labelling relationships.
We are afraid of defining them because then people would know. And we'd not be able to end this 'thing' as easily as we would have done otherwise. For God sake, no one has time to spend it on you completely, they have there own nut and screws to fix .. Isn't it?
Our mentality about the concept of love is screwed. (Let's face it !)
Most of us haven't been in love and don't even understand what it is. For us, it's a game that we think we know too well. But that is not the case, you have to live the feeling to get the stats right :)
We have bound ourselves so tight against the shackles of social bindings that search of the right time does not let us find some ever!
So give some space to tinder, go out, meet people rather than adding them on Facebook, have a real conversation instead of sharing emotes, and don't be afraid to give love a chance! It will be worth it.
The theory stands true for all segments in life, including relationships also.
While we start liking a person, we are madly, deeply and passionately in love (even if it is not that !) with all that is attached to that individual.
But in due course of time when the you catch hold of the someone you thought would be 'Hard to Get' person and mystery unfolds, that cupid struck love flies and reality dawns.
Suddenly, everything looks usual, boring and waste of productive time (as if, would have otherwise launched a space mission by now!).
The reason is not lack of time, interest or hope but it is our own ideology in life making things turn bitter.
First being our own apprehensions in life about "what if!" scenario & 'Let's-end-this-before-it-gets-started' technique
Always in a defencive mode, which makes us be afraid to get into a relationship, afraid to get out of it, afraid to dump, afraid to get dumped. Lots of fear resides inside.
Next, We tend to me a lot more materialistic than required. Today, we would rather have an iPhone than a partner
it is all about my phone, my laptop, my clothes, my watch.
We tend to keep grudges and never let it go. Once broken in love, we are too bitter to let it go.
It is completely fine if didn't work out in the first place. Stop being bitter. Give love another chance. You can not change the what is destined but can always make things work till you drop.
We want it to be the best than the rest. The reason is loud and simple - can't deal with flaws and look for perfection.
Our generation is so obsessed with perfection that we can't deal with the smallest of flaws. "He is nice but he is dark", "She is smart but she is short".
We need to realise that we've grown up and the world is much more than just these.
We aspire for things until we have achieved what we want. Once the 'chase' ends, everything ends.
Met someone new --> exchange numbers --> Conversations --> Ask out --> dates --> Dinners --> loose interest --> start avoiding --> its over (no talking terms mostly :P !).
Then after a while, Met someone new --> exchange numbers --> Conversations --> Ask out --> dates --> Dinners --> loose interest --> start avoiding --> its over. And the loop goes on.
We know the drill all too well, don't we?
We are out there - on social media websites, on dating apps, at parties, but all this while, are we really available? We are available, but never really available.
We hide our inhibitions and are scared out of our wits to be alone. We try to be the part of the gang just to prove to ourselves that we are not loners. We exist... Don't we ?
We meet people at a rapid pace and drop them even faster.,
We keep looking for options - for something better. We do not want to settle for less
We dread of being labelled, most of us think why get into the trouble of labelling relationships.
We are afraid of defining them because then people would know. And we'd not be able to end this 'thing' as easily as we would have done otherwise. For God sake, no one has time to spend it on you completely, they have there own nut and screws to fix .. Isn't it?
Our mentality about the concept of love is screwed. (Let's face it !)
Most of us haven't been in love and don't even understand what it is. For us, it's a game that we think we know too well. But that is not the case, you have to live the feeling to get the stats right :)
We have bound ourselves so tight against the shackles of social bindings that search of the right time does not let us find some ever!
So give some space to tinder, go out, meet people rather than adding them on Facebook, have a real conversation instead of sharing emotes, and don't be afraid to give love a chance! It will be worth it.
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